Few things are quite as difficult as being a single parent. Having to raise a child on your own means putting in twice as much work with very little appreciation in return.
For most single parents, even tasks as simple as cooking dinner or going grocery shopping can seem daunting, and often impossible.
Taylor Myers, who has an infant son and a 4-year-old daughter with severe ADHD, is one of those parents.
In a powerful post on Facebook, Myers opened up about a recent experience she had when she was forced to take her two children grocery shopping.
“It finally happened. As I stood in the customer service line of Walmart to cash my paycheck with a cart of groceries(and some wine), Sophie sat/stood/did heads stands in the cart, whining over a bag of chips I took away and because she called me a butthole in line. She's relentless. I know this. I live with it. Her ADHD and obsessive little heart gets on these subjects of things she finds unjust and wrong and it doesn't stop until she eventually falls asleep or something very dramatic happens to snatch the attention off the obsessed about subject,” she began.
Myers tried best not to feed into her daughter’s behavior, so she tried to ignore her whining and prayed they would make it through their grocery trip unscathed.
“We stood in line for several minutes, me ignoring her whining and refusing to give in. What's giving in to bad behavior going to do but reinforce the bad behavior? I've walked out of stores hundreds of times because of her. Almost every time, actually, I end up leaving with nothing I came for and a tantrum having four year attached to my hand and a baby on my hip, but this time I had to stick it out to get the groceries. I tell her for the tenth time to sit down so she doesn't fall and the next thing I hear is a woman behind me in line saying ‘oh, for Christ's sake give her a cookie so she'll shut up!’” Myers wrote.
That’s when the single mother-of-two snapped and went off on the rude woman.
“I could've responded in a nicer way. I could've explained to her that my four year old has pretty severe ADHD, I raise both my children alone, I'm doing my best, and had no choice but to wait it out for the groceries. Instead, I heard "she's four years old and you need to mind your own f***ing business" come out of my mouth,” Myers wrote.
For the rest of their time in line, Myers tried to deal with her daughter while ignoring the woman she had snapped at, but she was truly hanging on by a thread at that point.
That’s when another woman approached her daughter and completely restored her faith in humanity.
“As I scan my things, a woman walks up and begins to talk to Sophie. She asks her questions to distract her, but backs me up when Sophie begins to go on about wanting the chips. "No, you can't have those today. You have to be good for your mommy. She needs you to be good for her. I have a little girl just like you. How old are you? How old is brother?". Honestly, this woman could've been the antichrist and I would've had more appreciation for her kindness and compassion than I have for anyone else I've ever encountered,” Myers wrote.
“It only takes one comment to break someone down. You never know what someone's going through. You never know the problems a child has that causes them to misbehave and unless you know the struggle of being a parent to a child like mine, you cannot judge me. But It also takes one small act of kindness to make a mama feel comfort and validation. Thank you to the woman in Walmart today, for showing that kindness to my children and I. Thank you for walking us out. Thank you for backing me up. Mamas have to stick together,” she added.