Making a marriage last always takes hard work, but sometimes it’s all too easy to lose sight of everything your partner does to keep you feeling loved and appreciated.
Despite watching her own parents divorce at a young age, The Blunt Blonde blogger, Jonna Miller, had always envisioned her own marriage as a fairy tale romance.
Finally, after meeting the man of her dreams, Miller assumed that their wedding would mark the first day of her “happily ever after” ending.
But it was just the beginning, and “happily ever after” proved to be much harder to maintain than Miller had always anticipated.
In her latest post entitled, “If Your Working Husband Makes You Feel Lonely Do His Laundry,” the young wife and mother explains:
“I don’t ever recall the Prince in the fairytale having rough, cracked hands and crows feet before he turns 30. I don’t recall the Prince missing dinners because he was working over time or going to bed shortly after he came home to his Palace because he was so exhausted.”
With such a hardworking husband to lean on, Miller often finds herself focusing more on the times he isn’t home with her than why he can’t be there to begin with.
“I know I’m putting him in a lose-lose situation,” she writes. “He literally can’t win. If he doesn’t work late, we won’t get the new furniture set that I HAVE to have. If he does work late, he comes home to a nagging wife who is desperate for his attention.”
It wasn’t until she was at home doing laundry one night that Miller finally realized just how hard her husband works to support their little family.
“Why did my clothes look so vibrant, clean and new? His were dingy, stained and torn. I stopped folding and just stood there, thinking,” she writes.
All at once, waves of “guilt and shame” washed over Miller, opening her eyes to everything her husband sacrifices for her and their daughter.
“This man provides more than I deserve. If I tell him I want something, very seldom will he tell me no…
Instead of being grateful that I have an amazing husband who takes amazing care of me and our daughter, I wait for him to come home to pick a fight. I get spoiled with the fruits of his labor and he is okay with a pair of torn boxer briefs.”
That one night of laundry inspired Miller to be more appreciative of the hard work and long hours her husband puts in to show how much he cares.
“His hands are rough. They have blisters and they’re cracked. His clothes are torn, stained and dingy. He doesn’t care, though. His heart is full when he walks into the door,” she writes.