A mom in the UK has revealed that she made the shocking decision not to allow her daughter to be taught by an overweight teacher.
In an article for The Daily Mail, Hilary Freeman recalled taking her 2-year-old daughter to a nursery school, where she was met by a “morbidly obese” young woman in her 20s.
“She moved slowly and breathlessly, her face flushed,” Freeman wrote. “Would she, I wondered, have the lightning reflexes needed to save an adventurous toddler from imminent danger?”
“And what sort of unhealthy habits would she teach my daughter, who would be eating her lunch and tea there each day?” she continued.
As she looked around the room, Freeman noticed that the young woman was not the only overweight teacher at the school.
“I couldn’t help worrying about the message this was sending to the children in their care: that being very fat is normal and — when children adopt role models so readily — even desirable,” Freeman wrote.
Despite the school’s high rating, Freeman ultimately decided to send her daughter elsewhere, where the teachers were fitter.
Freeman never told any of her friends the real reason she decided not to go with this particular school, knowing she would be accused of fat-shaming and discrimination.
But now, Freeman is speaking out, telling the world what she really thinks of so-called “fat positivity.”
“Fat-positivity — also known as fat acceptance — has gone too far. Originally a response to discrimination against those who aren’t slim enough to fit into society’s beauty ideal, it’s now an excuse for the severely obese to celebrate their bodies, the consequences be damned,” she wrote.
Freeman then goes on to say that being extremely overweight is sometimes considered to be as dangerous for a person’s health as smoking, but it’s not as harshly criticized.
“If that nursery assistant had been chain-smoking, everyone would have condemned her. But as a public health concern, the only real difference between smoking and obesity is that you can’t passively get fat,” she wrote.
In the end, Freeman feels at peace with her decision not to send her daughter to a nursery where the teachers were overweight.
“I don’t think that the disgust response to obesity is a social construct. I believe it’s innate because we know unconsciously that it’s a dangerous state,” she wrote. “Discrimination is never good. But neither is obesity. So let’s stop celebrating it, and instead offer a bit of tough love.”